Couples who feel that their marriage is not working will start to think about divorcing and it could leave one or other them feeling very helpless. Yet if couples are willing to commit effort to work things out then they are more likely to do so. Couples who choose to undergo some kind of therapy whether together or on their own can get a clearer picture of what has caused their problems and may actually them to come up with ways of sorting them out.
If your marital problems lie in one or both you cheating or abusing the other then you will need to work on communicating your feelings with each and regain each others trust. Also the magic that you once had will have been lost and this needs to be regained and is something that actually caused you to fall in love with each other in the first place.
Stopping a divorce from happening will take a lot of work by both parties. Especially if one or other partner is not sure or willing to make things work. This can be a very painful but also a very enlightening process. It is therefore crucial for you to identify if your marriage is going to be able to be saved from divorce in the first place.
Being able to communicate with your spouse and having trust in each is vital if you want to repair your marriage and stop it from ending in divorce, and so enable you to move forward together in your lives. Your best bet may well be to undergo some form of marriage counseling, especially if there are any outsanding or long standing issues that you have with each other. You should not feel ashamed if you need to turn to others in order to help save your marriage for ending up in a divorce.
Sometimes it seems that many couples are putting more effort into other things like watching TV than their relationships with their partners and which are very important part of their life. As a couple you will need to make a decision where your priorities lie and if you can actually save your marriage from ending in divorce proceedings. Plus what you actually do to work at saving your marriage from ending in divorce is going to play a major part on just what you do to repair it.
This is going to be journey which both parties should be taking seriously and which the love and trust you have for each other should be at the forefront of your thoughts. Doing this places you in a better position to save the marriage and preventing you ending up in you being divorced.
Communication is one thing can really help to save your marriage as you can learn how to be open, honest and trust each other more. By communicating properly you are able to strengthen your relationship once more.
When it comes to saving your marriage this does not seem as daunting as you would first imagine. Start having some fun together so you are able to rediscover each other. Why not spend time reinventing yourself and your marriage and use this time to heal the wounds you have and hopefully save your marriage. Couples who have been married for some time will tell you that it isn’t always easy to rebuild a relationship, but it is worth trying.
About the Author: Allison Thompson
Tags: Dealing with specific problems · Marriage Advice
I just received another email from someone about why I can’t help them with their marriage. Simply put, the writer told me that their situation is just too unique. No book, ebook, special report, seminar, etc., could help them, because they are just too different. Their situation is just too unique for “general help.”
Every week, I get several emails from people wanting to tell me their situation and then ask if my information can help them. Almost always (barring an abusive relationship or a spouse that has departed for the moon!), I answer “yes.” I am not worried about the problems. I am concerned with the destination.
So, to the person who wrote that email (don’t worry, I’ve already responded directly), and to all the others who tell themselves that, I have one thing to say: You Are Just Making Excuses!
I don’t think you mean to be, but you are. You see, the funny thing about a crisis is that it makes us feel like we are the only ones going through this. We look around and don’t see our friends suffering. We don’t hear others saying the same things, so we believe we must be unique.
And you are unique. I would even venture to say that your problems may be unique (although at this point in my career, I never hear anything new). Really, the wrapper of the problems (what it looks like) may be unique. But the underlying dynamics are exactly the same.
Remember Leo Tolstoy (you probably had to read War and Peace in high school)? In another book, Anna Karenina, Tolstoy observed that “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” We all see our unhappiness as unique.
But what I have discovered is the path to happiness is exactly the same for every couple! Understand, where you begin that process may be different (in fact, I have isolated 8 different starting points), but what needs to happen, the underlying dynamics, and how to get where you want to be is the same!
So, if you automatically tell yourself that your problems are just too unique to be helped, give that up! It isn’t true. Your situation may be unique, but the dynamics and the path to happiness is the same.
In other words, to boil it down, you can use the information in my ebook to save your marriage. Don’t destroy your chances of a happy marriage because you keep telling yourself that your problems are just too unique.
Give your marriage a try, Excuse Free!
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Guest Author: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
When Lee is not involved in an Adventure Race or SCUBA Diving, he spends his days writing, counseling, coaching and consulting. Lee has written the Best-Selling eBook, Save The Marriage, and has created the popular video, Stress-Free. Lee is a frequent speaker for many groups.
More marriage saving information can be found in his ebook, available by CLICKING HERE.
Tags: Marriage Advice
Are you frustrated that your relationship doesn’t have the magic and romance that it once had?
You’re not alone.
Living with the same partner for a long time can become stable and comfortable, and, as a result, can also kill the spark that made your relationship so special in the first place.
Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to reignite that magic:
1. SEND THEM A UNIQUE GIFT
Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write ‘I Love You’ inside a heart. Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner’s workplace, such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention of: Rebecca Jones, Level 20, Collins & Smith Solicitors, New York.” Mail it to your partner so they receive it in the middle of a busy day.
2. BECOME KIDS AGAIN
If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride. This will often bring back happy memories from their childhood.
3. FUN WITH WATER
On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach with you. Pull them out and throw one to your partner and then have a huge water fight.
4. A MASSAGE WITH A TWIST
Buy a small, decorated cardboard box, a sheet of colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card. Line the box with the tissue paper. Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the card: I know a great masseur. For an appointment call: (Your Phone Number)
5. BRING BACK CHILDHOOD MEMORIES
Contact your partner’s family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted. You can do this for your man too.
6. STARE AT THE CLOUDS
Drive into the country, find a grassy hill, and lie with your partner and look up at the clouds.
7. WALK ALONG THE BEACH
Trace out the shape of a large love heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you watch the sun go down.
8. ORGANIZE A PICNIC ON A WARM SUMMER’S NIGHT
Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.
9. SHOW YOU’RE GRATEFUL FOR YOUR PARTNER
Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying: “Thank you for coming into my life.”
10. SPICE UP YOUR LOVEMAKING
Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance in your relationship is to spice up your lovemaking. Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make love, try a new position, learn to give your partner a sensual massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing their bare skin before making love.
Many people underestimate the affect passionate and intimate lovemaking has on a relationship. If you spice it up, chances are you and your partner will naturally do romantic things for each other. Why? Because passionate lovemaking connects two people in a meaningful and unexplainable way that nothing else can.
Guest Author: Michael Webb
Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To read more, visit: http://abettermarriage.info/500-Lovemaking-Tips.html
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